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Be Perfect
Explanations > Motivation > Kahler's drivers > Be Perfect
Imperative | Identification | Benefits | Problems | Treatment | So what?
This is one of the five drivers originally identified in the field of Transactional Analysis by Taibi Kahler. Here are some simple and useful notes on it.
Imperative
- I must be perfect, wonderful, correct in every way.
- I must succeed in everything I do.
- I must get top marks and win.
Identification
- Exact language, including qualification when they are not sure, such as 'probably', and absolutes when they are, such as 'absolutely'.
- Always neat and well-groomed.
- Never completely satisfied with what they do.
Benefits
- Hard-working, with excellent quality output.
- May achieve great things.
Problems
- Fears of failure and losing control, and subsequent over-compensation.
- Over-work. Not finishing things for fear of criticism.
- Expecting others to be perfect too.
Treatment
- Laughter.
- Praise, including for less-than-perfect work.
- Be very specific with criticism (and praise).
So what?
Recognize these drivers in yourself and others and treat them accordingly.
See also
Ellis' Irrational Beliefs, A-player problems
Kahler, T. (1975). Drivers—The Key to the Process Script. Transactional Analysis Journal, 5:3
http://www.taibikahlerassociates.com/PTMvsPCM.phtml
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