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How we change what others think, feel, believe and do
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How we change what others think, feel, believe and do |
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Excuse yourself
Techniques > Conversation techniques > Closing the conversation > Excuse yourself Description | Example | Discussion | See also
DescriptionGive some excuse and leave. This does not have to be valid or even particularly sensible. Just saying that you must go is You can tag on a question to ask permission, if you like, although this is generally rhetorical. Giving a reason often helps, although again it does not have to make sense. ExampleExcuse me, but I have to go now. I have to get off now. Is that ok? I must leave because I have to go now. DiscussionPeople give excuses all the time. It is a social ritual that demands acquiescence from the other person. To refuse a simple excuse request is itself considered much ruder than excusing yourself. When giving a reason, all you need to do is to sound rational. Research by Ellen Langer on pushing into queues (for using a photocopier in the experiment) showed if you give a reason, then people are more likely to let you in. What was most curious was that even when the reason did not make sense, it still worked. See also |
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