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How to Handle Unsolicited Feedback
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by: Drew Stevens
Growing up as a teen I had a very influential mentor in my life – Box James. Coach offered me encouragement and challenged me when needed. I greatly honored the feedback he offered as well as the way in which he altered my life. Yet the feedback offered was something I requested.
In the last several weeks I am bewildered but the amount of feedback in my email inbox. These have included items related to ideas for articles, vocabulary in presentations as well as image in a video. What is most fascinating- I never asked for it! It is amazing how often individuals feel the need to provide feedback especially when it is unsolicited.
The reason why others provide unsolicited feedback is:
It might appear that I do not believe in feedback – untrue! Yet I believe that feedback must come when requested and more importantly from those you respect. The best feedback is from mentors or coaches that you hire or have aided you in the past. When I seek feedback I do so from the following:
The following list does not denote exclusivity however it does offer the initial phases to glean the best feedback for self – improvement. Yet feedback also requires that you understand the following 1) you will improve each day, as life is an educational playground. There are challenges to overcome so each day becomes a new life lesson. And 2) look at solicited feedback as guides for success. Too many seek perfection and it is not possible. Strive for success so that you can minimize your stress of working towards perfection.
Realize as I when you obtain unsolicited feedback you have two options 1) combat or 2) refrain. Opt for the latter. Illustrate your resolve by ignoring unsolicited feedback. This illustrates confidence in yourself, conviction in your beliefs and mastery of you!
© 2011. Drew J Stevens PhD. All rights reserved.
Drew Stevens Ph.D. President of Stevens Consulting Group is one of those very rare sales management and business development experts with not only 28 years of true sales experience but advanced degrees in sales productivity. Not many can make such as claim. Drew works with sales managers and their direct reports to create more customer centric relationships that dramatically drive new revenues and new clients. He is the author of Split Second Selling and the founder and coordinator of the Sales Leadership Program at Saint Louis University. Contact him today at 877-391-6821.
Contributor: Drew Stevens
Published here on: 22-May-11
Classification: Sales, Development