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ChangingMinds Blog! > Blog Archive > 10-Feb-19
Sunday 10-February-19 The two-part photographer's questionI'm a keen photographer and often go out with friends to see what we can capture. 'Do you mind if I take photographs?' He asked. 'Yes, sure.' They replied. His next question was the real one: 'Is it ok if you are in the picture?'. They paused, briefly. 'Yes, ok.' So away he snapped. Neat method! Start by getting an easy yes, then add that which might have been refused. A variation on this 'yes set' method could be first to ask a simple question like 'Isn't is a nice day?" Then be more positive than 'Do you mind'. Perhaps better is as used in the final question, 'Is it ok'. But the bottom line is always 'use what works', and his words worked fine. To complete the story, a couple of men turned up, looking rather unhappy at their partners being photographed by a stranger. 'Don't worry, we gave permission' said one of the women. The men frowned and my friend beat a hasty retreat, though it could, if he hadn't asked, have ended up far, far worse. |
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