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Six Quick Tips to Build Charisma
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by: Karla Brandau, CSP
"Charisma is the
intangible that
makes people want to
follow you, to be
around you, to be
influenced by you."
Each person is born
ethnocentric, or
believing that other
people and events
revolve around them
which is generally
true for the first
few years of a
child's life. The
focus of activity
for a growing child
is inward. Some
people carry this
inward, self-focus
into adulthood.
These people, so
overly concerned
with their own well
being in a
self-centered way,
never learn the
secrets of
influence.
Successful people,
who want to have the
power of persuasion,
turn their circle of
activity and
interest outward.
They expand their
centers to be as
conscious of the
world around them as
they are of
themselves. They
develop what we
call, charisma.
Charisma means
you have learned to:
1. Act with
credibility.
Those who are
inconsistent in
their behavior repel
people while those
who are consistent
in their behavior
draw people to them.
To be influential,
have integrity.
Speak up for what
you believe, then
act accordingly.
Gerry Spence, one of America's greatest trial lawyers, said, "One can stand as the greatest orator the world has known, possess the quickest mind, employ the cleverest psychology, and have mastered all the technical devices of argument, but if one is not credible one might just as well preach to the pelicans."
2. Be interested. Be truly interested in the other person. Treat him or her as the most important person you'll interact with that day - a VIP, Very Important Person. Smile at them, not just for a brief, dutiful second, but for a magical two or three seconds.
When you smile, lean
toward the person a
little, and think in
your mind, "I like
you. You are a great
individual. I want
to get to know you
better." You'll be
amazed at the
connection and trust
that will occur.
3. Extend respect.
A few interaction
skills that make a
big difference to a
respectful
atmosphere in your
organization include
not interrupting
conversations,
asking if the person
has time to talk,
and listening to
ideas.
Remember not to be
in such a
know-it-all position
or in such a hurry
that you finish
other people's
sentences. Be sure
to comment on their
ideas to let them
know you have really
been listening, not
just waiting for
them to take a
breath so you can
jump in with your
agenda.
4. Deliver
sincere compliments.
People you work with
do care what you
think about them.
They appreciate your
mentioning their
good work. When you
do recognize them,
be specific in your
compliments.
Refrain from saying
in an off-handed
manner, "Oh, great
work, Donna." Make
it more personal:
"Donna, that is the
best research that
has come across my
desk in the last six
months. Excellent
work."
5. Accept sincere compliments. If a colleague comments, "Good presentation." Refrain from saying, "Oh, it was nothing." If a friend says, "Nice suit," don't reply, "This old thing? I've had it for years."
Deflecting a
compliment often
draws unwanted
attention and
belittles both you
and the person
offering the
compliment. Just
say, "Thank you."
You'll be pleased
with how gracious
you become.
6. State what you
are FOR, not AGAINST.
People don't like
nor do they
cooperate with
people who they
think are against
them. When you are
against something,
the person thinks
you are against them
personally. Once you
voice your
opposition to
another person's
idea, you become
part of the problem.
It's as if a war has
started with each of
you fighting to be
right.
When you are for
something, you begin
focusing on the
potential for
positive change. You
start the process of
collaboration. You
become a powerful
person.
Try it. Next
time a colleague
brings you an idea
for improving the
department, find
something about the
idea you can be for.
You may find that
you never have to
state what you were
against in her ideas
because the synergy
and creativity has
taken a positive
turn to solving the
problem.
Karla Brandau, CSP is a speaker, trainer & successful entrepreneur. She is "A wealth of empowerment information" who provides "real help, not theory" to improve, enhance & energize your leadership skills. Visit http://www.karlabrandau.com Call Karla on 770.923.0883 or email her karla@karlabrandau.com. Contributor: Karla Brandau Published here on: 17-Sep-07 Classification: Development Website: http://www.karlabrandau.com |
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